Our youngest joined our family the week before Thanksgiving. We recieved that call about 2 weeks before Thanksgiving. Although we had saved our son's clothes for just such an event, we had thought that that need was gone since grandma had had him for the last couple of years. We had a garage sale just last summer and sold or gave away all of the clothes that we had saved. We were ready to move on with our lives as parents with both kids in school. I had been taking college classes and had planned my internship to be starting right about when I knew the kids would be in school. Well you know what happens with plans, they get a few kinks and sometimes you need a do over. That is what happened here.
It started with a call from DHS asking if we might be willing to have Justin join our family. Before my head started spinning I let her know I would have to talk to my husband and family and took her name and number. She said o.k. but it needed to happen soon. Oh boy, my brain was working overtime about the reasons we should/shouldn't do this, how we could do it, how would our kids feel, could we really give this little guy the attention he so richly deserved and would need. I called a couple of the aunts up to discuss this with them, they have become sisters to me in many ways, and their thoughts and opinions were needed here. Then after the kids went to bed I told my husband of the call and we decided that we both needed time to process and come up with our thoughts before talking more about it. We talked the next day and then with the kids that night. We decided as a family that night that we would call and tell her yes.
He joined our family a week later, the week before thanksgiving. Seeing the boys together has been amazing. Yes, they have their brotherly squabbles, but they also get along unusually well. It is funny to see the youngest suck his thumb exactly like his older brother used to do (two fingers up over the nose). Unfortunately, they had him join our family through a gaurdianship, which has caused much head ache and frustration. This will be another post.
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